Fiddler on the Roof
This has been a summer of goodbyes. Mary got married and moved to Nashville. Mercy left for South Korea. Lina left for Zambia. All of these goodbyes were hard, but the last one was the hardest. Mary is not all that far away (only 600 miles!), and I know I’ll see her again before the end of the year. Mercy is fulfilling a dream and having the time of her life, and I know I’ll see her again at Christmas time. When Lina leaves, however, it is different. The length of the separation is not known. I may see her again in a year and a half–or it might be two or three years. If her support level is not adequate to enable her to save up for a trip to Texas, it might be a very long time. It is this open-ended nature of the farewell that makes it so hard. We must say goodbye without any relief in sight, without knowing if it might be many years before we see each other again.
And this is all over and above the reality that she has been here for five whole months, during which I had a constant companion, knitting buddy, chauffeur, video friend, kitchen helper, tea drinker, and conversation partner. I enjoy her company so much and since her visit was longer this time, it was easy to just drop back into a routine that included her. Going back to a routine that does not include her is much harder.
So, this morning I “slept in” till 7:30 and then as I was still lying in bed trying to summon up the will to rise, I got a call from Lina. She was safely in London–in Trafalgar Square–and once again her debit card had been frozen. This has happened every single time she goes overseas. We inform the credit union well in advance. This time we actually went over it with them twice! Yet Lina got there and was unable to use her card.
I tried calling the credit union at 8:00 but found they don’t open till 8:30. So Lina was able to make her way to the Tower of London, but she couldn’t buy a ticket to get in! Finally 8: 30 rolled around and I had a long conversation with a clerk at the credit union during which we went over the exact same information for the third time. She assured me that Lina’s card would be released, so I texted Lina the good news and she tried to use the card and it was rejected again! So frustrating! I told her to wait a few minutes and try again, just in case it took a few minutes for the process to be completed. Then I got a phone call from the credit union saying that all was well, and this time they were right. Lina tried again and this time it worked! So she was able to enjoy her tour before heading back to the airport to catch her flight to Zambia.
It was a quiet day here. I started downloading the last of my old blogs and then Xanga went offline. They are switching to a new server, so I should be able to get those last few months soon. But meanwhile, since I couldn’t do that, I did other things between naps. I have learned over the years that I am deeply affected by emotional exhaustion as well as physical exhaustion, and today was a prime example of that. I did get some sewing done and some school prep stuff and a little bit of reading and knitting. I also made a massive batch of coleslaw, which is something I only do once every several years.
This weekend’s going to be wild. Going to a party, but also throwing a party two days in a row. So much for life slowing down!